Her mother remained in Paris; Alice didn’t see her again until she was 15, when she began to spend her summer vacations in France.
Nellie Sands remarried twice, first to James Hatmaker, with whom she had a daughter, Consuelo, born in 1902, Alice’s half-sister and only sibling.
Consuelo married a famous French aviator, but it didn’t last.
Milestones: Sep. 20, 1926
Divorced. Captain Charles Nungesser, French ace who had brought down 83 enemy planes, who had been wounded 17 times, who had lost an arm, a leg, a chin; by Mrs. Consuelo Hatmaker Nungesser, daughter of the onetime confidential secretary to Cornelius Vanderbilt; at Paris. She charged “incompatibility.”† In 1923, romantic patriots pointed with pride to a double wedding at Dinard, France, where Miss Hatmaker, 19, married Ace Nungesser; where her mother married Capt. William Waters, U. S. A.
Alice considered Consuelo to be “eccentric” and “gullible.” Consuelo fell under the spell of Meher Baba, an Indian guru and spiritual leader known for saying, “Don’t worry, be happy.”
Consuelo with Meher Baba
There is little indication that Alice and Consuelo were close or even saw much of one another. However, in November 1922, The New York Times reported that Nellie Sands and Consuelo Hatmaker were among Alice De Lamar’s guests at the opera. Consuelo was 20 years old at the time.